People say falling in love is hard these days. Our generation is so messed up, which leave us with low expectations and trust issues. But what I’ve come to realize is that the hardest thing to fall in love with is yourself.
We are all constantly trying to mold ourselves into this pretty picture that society has created but it’s unrealistic. We are all different and beautiful in our own ways. So why try to change that? Why should we allow people to set the standard for beauty, for success, for love, etc.? Beauty is different to everyone. Success is different to everyone. And love is different to everyone. So why does society make us think we have to have the same views on every single thing?
By allowing ourselves to conform to societies views and false expectations, we allow ourselves to become so small and we let the world take control of our lives. But we should be taking control of the world. We are in control of our own destinies, morals, and values. Therefore, we should not allow society, a person, or a bad experience change that for us. We all have a purpose on this planet so life is too short to focus on the petty things. We are extraordinary beings. We are capable of too much to allow ourselves to get lost in the armpit of societies false claims. We are so powerful and we don’t even realize it sometimes.
We can feel so many different things with our minds and with our bodies. It’s both a beautiful and ugly thing. It’s beautiful in the way that we feel love and warmth, and can reminisce on our adventures and great experiences. It’s ugly in the way that we can feel all of these things and that we can lose them just as easily with the spark of a negative thought. When love is good, it’s really good. And when a love is bad, it’s really bad. It can be good when you love something so much it becomes your career or in the way that you find your true love. It can be bad in the way that when a love for your job becomes your only love and takes over your life. It can also be bad if you become too dependent on someone you love who eventually leaves you heartbroken. Even reminiscing on great experiences and adventures can turn ugly if you are in a bad place and make yourself believe you will never be as happy as you once were.
We are such vulnerable human beings and that’s okay. But ultimately we are the only ones responsible for picking ourselves back up because we are the only ones that can control the thoughts in our mind and change the negative to a positive. This is why we must love ourselves. It’s the most important part of our existence. If we don’t love ourselves, how can we expect other people to love us? It is something we hear all the time but it is true. We need to drive our emotions and feelings no matter the situation.
“Perfect” is simply just a word that someone made up. No one is perfect but we can be our own kind of perfect. By this I mean we learn to truly understand and love ourselves. If you constantly think and strive for the best then you are being as perfect as you can be. By staying true to yourself and others, creating only room for positive thoughts and people in your life, and by falling in love with yourself –you have reached your highest point of your own perfect being. If you can do all of these things then congratulations- you are learning to fall in love with yourself and the world leaves with you endless opportunities at your feet! Jump on those opportunities, allow yourself to truly live in the moment and feel them. Stop thinking what if and DO IT. You never know unless you follow your heart. Stop living in fear of your own thoughts, society, and bad experiences. Instead, create new positive thoughts, new experiences, and create the kind of society you wish to see in your mind. It will be amazing when you see how many good, new things you can attract with a positive mindset.
Falling in love with yourself may not be easy and for many will take a lot of time. I’m still on my journey from caterpillar to butterfly. But I promise that once you do fall in love with yourself, it’ll be the most magical thing to happen to your existence. Because once you fall in love with yourself, you can do anything you put your mind to. Once you fall in love with yourself, you won’t care what other people think. Once you fall in love with yourself, you can take control of the world. But most importantly once you fall in love with yourself, you can take control of your own life. Once you do that, the world is truly your oyster.
Start the trend.
Speak your mind.
Spread the positivity.
And love yourself endlessly.